I wasn’t the one applying to jobs, working out every day, or hustling to book music gigs…, My boxing coach would always say “Ultimately it’s you in the ring who’s got to fight the fight. Finding mentors whose values we share, whose actions we hope to emulate and whose visions are inspiring help us clarify our roles and the responsibilities that come with them. "Working in the helping field is rewarding because it gives you a front row seat on a person's abilities and desires to grow and learn. Through listening it will become clear how much good you are doing in the session. There may be hidden motives behind their stated objectives. Since the majority of my training did not focus on poverty, racism, social justice, discrimination or multicultural counseling, it was important to figure out which theories and skills to apply and which to discard in “real world,” everyday situations. Mentorship is 2 days in a row and blogging is split in 3 days, usually 3 ... Read more 5 Things I Learned From Teaching Others If you listen to your client, he or she will usually let you know if you are getting off track and not being helpful. There are times when one feels helpless, but this is just part of the process. Helping others succeed only makes sense if an individual is willing to put the effort to achieve results. The desks are good? Course length – 12 sessions at 2.5 hours each. Remember that it is our job to “help,” not attempt to control or impose unsolicited change on others. Like so many “helpers,” I wanted to fix things and make people feel better. A good friend of mine speaks Arabic, and she’s teaching me that language as payment for me helping her with her English courses. One of my hardest lessons in academia was to clarify the style of mentoring that would best foster my growth, and one of my greatest privileges came in securing the mentorship of individuals such as Dr. Lesley Jones who helped me navigate the lessons that are a natural by-product of the work we do. Even when you have done an excellent job, be humble. Ideally, one should also have a strong support system and friends outside the counseling field as well. Jane GoodmanACA Foundation chair; professor emerita of counseling at Oakland University. Below are some of my takeaways that may be helpful for those working towards their own goals, or for those trying to help others succeed. April 27, 2012. A lot of times instead of charging people money I’ll have THEM teach me something in exchange. And that’s what organizing is for me, anyway. Stay the high road, even in those more confusing and highly charged situations, and at the end of the day you will be able to live with yourself and your loved ones and subsequently be a far better person and professional. If you’re a coach, for instance, how much do you feel you  “give” and how much do you “receive”? It is a privilege to work with clients because we are sharing “intimacies” that perhaps have not been shared with others. .-= Travis´s last blog ..Misery Loves Company =-. This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Stay in the loop! It’s purely win-win:-) .-= Madalina´s last blog ..Merg la interviu (cu un recruiter) =-. It’s not the fact that I know more people than I knew when I owned my own business. If you’re trying to make the other person better, you can’t be less than great. Counseling is not like tube socks. As a new counselor, I was working in low-income, culturally diverse communities and schools with students and families identified as being at high levels of risk. I also had to learn not to take my clients home with me metaphorically and not to be too serious. Now, let’s see what are the 5 things that I got substantially improved by teaching others: Every person is unique. © 2020, American Counseling Association. With others, we have the potential to co-create dreams that promote good will, mutual understanding and shared passion. After that exercise the rest of the seminar was really smooth. More by this author Follow iDaReToDrEaM13 . We belong to a profession that can bring with it immeasurable experiences of joy, meaning and satisfaction. He helped me clarify and focus on the important things in my life and provided inspiration to keep going. What I have learned was… chocolate works. “Every person is unique” – This is the one that resonates most with me. This is a wonderful profession! Both are pretty demanding in terms of focus, energy and time. 7 Ways To Drastically Improve Your Social Life, The Silent People – and Why You Should Not Be One of Them, Online Marketing is Not Just about Making Money Online. They either didn’t follow up, weren’t willing to put in the work, or gave up pretty quickly. Every time I started a new workshop I knew I will put to a difficult test not only my experience, my knowledge and interpersonal skills, but also my personal brand. By working together, we have an opportunity to create our unique vision for the profession — one that builds community and opportunities for the clients we serve. It’s the actual business quota for each person I know. No doubt, it is in relation to others that we take our vision to a place of action. “If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. She modeled ways of doing the “hard thing” in ways that promoted courage, confidence and the greater good. What was the best piece of advice you received as a student or new professional? Too often the trend in our society is for people to be separated from either other, to be cut off from the great mass of humanity, and in doing so to be dehumanized a little bit more with each step. Sam GladdingPast president of ACA (2004-2005); chair, Department of Counseling, Wake Forest University. Love what you do. Thus I posted on Reddit, offering to assist anyone who wanted help with setting and achieving goals, with staying accountable, or with general self-improvement. Getting out and teaching what I’ve learned in 10 years of entrepreneurship had a very important (yet almost invisible for any other person than me) effect: actually proved if my personal experience was good or not. School Trident University International; Course Title MGT 420; Uploaded By brandondunlap15. Mentorship is 2 days in a row and blogging is split in 3 days, usually 3 Fridays in a row. Fourth, take care of yourself so you will have the energy and strength to help others take care of themselves. Trust your client to let you know how you are doing and trust yourself. Great insights Dragos, I started doing workshops and 1-1 coaching few months ago too and totally agree – nothing can beat real human interaction. It’s more about creating a specific context in which you can express yourself in a more powerful way. By Leo Babauta. The iPhone, iPad and Mac app which tells you when to speed up, when to slow down, keeping you effective and balanced. My plan was to work with a few individuals for ~8 weeks to see what we could achieve with a bit of guidance. .-= Arvind Devalia´s last blog ..The Silent People – and Why You Should Not Be One of Them =-. Enter your email address to subscribe and receive an email anytime a new article is posted at CT Online. A little hubris goes a long way in getting you into trouble. As rewarding and fulfilling as they can be, there are times when these roles are also conflicting and confusing. Wonderful insights, Marko, especially the last one. How much are you getting when you’re teaching somebody else? That working with real clients was a lot harder than clients in practicum and that as much as I wanted to make a difference on behalf of clients, everyone’s life was far more complicated. I personally lean more towards the “sharing” thing rather then “teaching” and that’s exactly because of the increased energy exchange when you share , And happy to have you on board ad Blogging 101 . I had to figure out how to transpose my graduate courses to the “real” work that I was doing daily with clients and students who were dealing with racism, poverty, substance abuse, school failure, discrimination, juvenile delinquency and crime, teenage pregnancy, community and domestic violence, etc. For those where the structure wasn’t the right fit, it made sense not to continue. Real brands are built in real world. . You’re constantly being challenged even if your main teaching themes are the same. Dragos, some great insights from what YOU get when you are teaching. At the end of the 2 months, the results were rather satisfying: From successfully planning a fulfilling trip around Asia to securing a more enjoyable job that paid 25% more – every individual (especially me) took something positive away from this experience. This situation has improved in many states, but more work is needed in order for counselors to practice on parity with other professional groups. But let me tell you something: we will always need validation for our actions. They make me practice and push my skills so that I can show them what they want. Would love to hear it in the comments. As others have mentioned, one of the most amazing aspects of teaching is how much one learns in the process. We spend so much of our time goal planning and creating service plans and it is the goals that we continue to encourage, support, and teach our individuals to strive for. It’s like every new encounter is wrapped into a veil of business proposals. I am actually very surprise that no one feels the way that I do, which makes me wonder even more. Some of the things they’ve done may not be, but there’s a world of difference between a behaviour and a whole person. In addition, I had to learn to be creative and innovative because counseling is not a mechanical or by-the-numbers profession. First, the advice I received: Trust the process, trust yourself, trust your clients. Insightful Never teach to small children but the interaction with my 3 year old daughter is amazing! If you’re looking for another way to make life interesting, try helping others succeed. However as a coach I know that we all bring our own unique things into the world and there’s no one who can do exactly what I do. In the end, it’s a win-win scenario! The hardest lesson for me to learn was that not everyone who voluntarily enters a counseling office really wants to make changes. Thanks for sharing your experiences, Arvind and congrats for that standing ovation, I know what you mean . We literally grew together: he, as a performer of new tasks, and me as a witness. I had a bag of Rum Kokos (that is Caribbean rum with coco substance and Austrian chocolate bonbons). 3) Never giving up on your students A couple of years ago I almost wanted to tell the parents of a 12 year old that they should reconsider registering their kid for the next term. Reading what they wrote about one bonbon was one of the most amazing experiences I had as a trainer. Write and publish.” I was told this by one of the greats in the field who talked about scholarship as the key to influencing the field and advancing creative ideas and unique new conceptual models and research. Probably, teaching – or rather “sharing” knowledge – is the ultimate way of learning . And that’s ok if all you want is to be a famous blogger. It’s a very subtle process, involving both skills and presence, but in the end, the other part gets his “juice” from the interaction with you, from motivation and inspiration. I can’t follow all of them, which I think it’s a sign of normality, but I do enjoy this new field of opportunities. The pressure of keeping my connections alive, after spending a lot of valuable time together, pushed me to a new level. So I guess I am getting a lot of validation back. A few months ago, I started a series of workshops. Not really, but it’s essential – and with the right mindset it’s amazing what repeating the basics over and over can do for your own skills. Unfortunately, a lot of people say they want to improve but they’re not actually willing to put in the work to get there. If you’re looking to improve and achieve your own goals, go get started. One is about doing online business (which I call the “mentorship”) and the other one is about blogging. Allowing clients to struggle and suffer was really a challenge. Each attendant was in fact an amplifier for my personal image. At best I was a helpful navigator sitting shotgun, and at worst, a glorified cheerleader. Ultimately, making changes is the responsibility of the client. Fascinating thoughts about the coaching process, especially about how to suspend your ego and judgment. This was particularly important since my work emphasized social justice and multicultural counseling — areas during my early days that were far less advanced and recognized in the counseling field. Don’t expect or look for external forces to push you to greatness. I’m still new at this, but it surely draws me in Thanks for being around. I do understand that there are tonnes of benefits by coaching someone, such as reinstating what you understand. Different scientists from different countries made special researches and in 2013 they came to the same conclusion: we can really live longer if we start to help other disinterestedly. Any screw up is highly penalized when people are expecting to learn something from you. What advice would you like to share with students or new professionals today? After just a few months of workshops I feel like my network of people has exploded. This was over a weekend and on the Sunday afternoon when we finished, the participants gave me and my co-presenter a standing ovation. Jon, I agree with dragos coachings not about that, it’s about taking a stand for others to excell. Pages 5 Ratings 100% (1) 1 out of 1 people found this document helpful; This preview shows page 3 - 4 out of 5 pages. Most of you say you want to be successful, but you don’t want it bad. “Write and publish. And striving to be the best version of yourself in front of an eager audience is the best thing that could happen to your personal brand. For those interested in helping others succeed, go out and be generous with your time and support. How are the chairs? It’s the endorphines I guess. Most of the coaching I do is in a one-to-one setting with people who mostly have similar types of problems in that if I were to make a list, the list would go “Depression, Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, Learning Difficulties etc”. For new professionals, networking through professional organizations is a lifesaver and critical if you want to avoid burnout and stay up-to-date on the most recent developments in the field. Based on my evaluation after the mentorship workshops I made some informal recommendations to some investors and, to my great satisfaction, some of the young entrepreneurs I recommended got an initial seed funding. From the moment I started really teaching others, the self development process has increased dramatically, and that makes training and coaching even more appealing! Still I learned something from it. Module 1: weeks 1-4, Understanding the importance of helping others to learn. It will tell you the direction in which you should go. I wanted to learn guitar when I was a kid but unfortunately my teacher wasn’t so patient as you. I am actually forced to find ways to keep track of what I’m starting and with whom. Dr. Jones encouraged me to follow my passion and to trust myself. We are working with “collaborators.”, Fred BemakMember of the ACA Human Rights Committee; professor of counseling and director of the Diversity Research and Action Center at George Mason University. My first ever paid workshop was to a group of 38 hypnotherapists and other types of therpists all wanting to learn about coaching. Yes, I did business for 10 years. I do plan to do another round of this, but for now, I’ve decided to hold off as there are quite a few other projects I want to focus on. So no, I think that if you want to coach someone,m you shouldn’t be afraid that he / she is better than you in some field. I still know a few key people and try to keep close with my old partners. But things are changing incredibly fast in this industry. Stuff I taught other kids over a 3 week period took 3 or 4 months with him. Through interaction, there are subtleties of life we will experience. It continues to be one of the most rewarding things I’ve ever done. Realizing that your actions are the strongest driving force towards your own success is extremely powerful. Although eight people had originally reached out to me, four of them quickly dropped out. Couldn’t describe it and I won’t even try. There’s no point in helping others succeed if they’re not actually interested in success. And every time I interacted with another person during my workshops, something magic happened. Interacting, teaching and always being challenged are so different than blogging. And I personally receive so much from doing in it terms of experience, knowledge, new skills, personal growth and insights that sometimes I feel I should be the one paying considering how much value I receive. Everyone can use some support and assistance – so if you’re in a position where you can offer help (without too much inconvenience), do so generously. The brief time I spent working with Chris was the most productive time I’ve had in quite a while. Which, to be honest, I consider to be a great thing. I never had this feeling. Some of them are talented AND dedicated. Adherence to this principle will forgive an array of technical and procedural “sins.”. Preparing a workshop is totally different than preparing a blog post. Beginning to counsel clients is a lesson in humility. Everyone I worked with could have succeeded in their own right. When you decide which goal to focus on – make sure you want it bad. Out of what he has learned over time helping others . Not to personalize clients’ responses or decisions to not return for counseling. After all, I didn’t achieve anything. She had unfailing faith in her mentees and encouraged us to set our sights on professional activities that would inspire us and that would provide us with the relational opportunities we so enjoyed. As members of the counseling profession, membership in these organizations is not just a privilege, it is a responsibility. Stay honest, strive for clarity, help and give back where you can, take risks, laugh and enjoy the ride, love fully, don’t let fear drive your personal and professional life and decisions, and work toward letting go of ego. They ask questions. I really enjoyed doing these workshops. They were supposed to close their eyes, grab a bonbon without seeing it, smell it, taste it and then describe it in writing. If you’d like to know when we do something like this again, follow me on Instagram or like our Facebook page. Everyone I worked with was extremely willing to write me positive recommendations or take the time to give me feedback on my process. Even small children would have questions and insights that challenged my understanding and perception of the subjects I taught. Which brings me to my next point…, Although it would look great if I could take all the credit for the results achieved at the end of these two months, I really can’t. I was only there to help guide them, pace them, or remind them of their goals. Even with adults. We have a myriad of roles to negotiate as we begin our work as counselors and counselor educators. 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